16 Days: ‘Boys are taught they have more power and authority than girls’: Part 2
By By Junior Zakhele Ndlovu
Violence is an act that is created by another person to hurt another person or people with the purpose to get what they want or to gain power towards that specific person.
From a young age, we as young boys are treated with the same mindset as men to say that we have the power over women or girls. We are still taught that females are people to just stay at home and do nothing, and that they have no say and that it is okay to hit a woman.
This is completely wrong. We need to be taught about equality instead and what it means to live in a free and democratic country.
Seeing violence isn’t a great thing because the person is hurt from within and that pain doesn’t fade away easily. It is also a pain that young boys are exposed to and learn to copy. Young boys grow up thinking it is okay to say things like, “You worthless b****!” or “I’m going to beat the hell out of that girl.”
Campaigns like the 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children should also focus on how young boys are exposed to violence and how they grow up with the same mindset of treating women from an early age. A simple Google Image search of the campaign mainly shows pictures and women at the forefront of fighting this violence. These campaigns should focus on both sides of violence on women and children and consider the behaviour of the husbands, the boyfriends and young boys in general.
We need to ask questions like what makes men violate women and children. Is this because they were taught from a young age that it is okay to violate or to hit women or children? It is very rare that we see these questions being asked.
This should all start as soon as possible with young children to teach them a way not to violate women and children before they grow up to be adults. Young boys should stand up against violence towards women from an early age and they need to realise violence is never a solution. They should be aware that gender equality is needed and that they are capable of stopping violence.
*This article was first published by City Press.